Old Cult Objects: What to Do with Them?

Old Cult Objects: What to Do with Them?

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Here is an exercise for recovering ex-members:

Look around your home. How many objects remind you of your former cult? Do you still have cult clothing, books, music, or art? How does having these objects affect you?

I recently worked with a woman who had been out of a Korean cult for 7 years. She understood that it was a cult, knew the leader was a rapist, made the decision to leave, went back to school, and got married. But, she still struggled. When she and her husband came into my office to do recovery work, I learned that she was still sleeping on a wooden pillow with the cult’s symbol on it. Part of her was still attached to the cult. (She no longer uses the pillow, and I am using her story with her permission.)

Cult objects can be an anchor back to the cult mindset. They can be an active trigger, or they can serve unconsciously as painful reminders of guilt, shame, trauma, anger, or betrayal. They can encourage thought-stopping, loaded language, or absolutist thinking. Unless you work on your own personal recovery and integrate your Cult Self with your Authentic Self, the Cult Self can continue to exert unconscious negative influence.

Alternatively, cult objects may continue to be useful, or remind you of a positive experience or relationship. Carefully consider the effects these objects have on you, whether positive or negative.

Personal recovery means taking back control of your own life. Before, the cult may have decided what objects you have in your life, and assigned major significance to them. Perhaps the cult taught you that your personal value was tied up in these objects, or that the only way to be happy or healthy was to use these objects.

Now that you’re out, you get to decide what to wear, where to live, what to eat, how to sleep, and what media to consume. You can determine the significance and value of your own personal possessions. Don’t let your former cult continue to influence you with these objects.

Divine Principle, The Watchtower, The Book of Mormon

Divine Principle, The Watchtower, The Book of Mormon

It is my advice to never throw away anything truly personal like your journals, poetry, artwork. Put them in a box and give them to a trusted friend or family member. You might want them one day after you have done healing work, and the pain and trauma of being in a cult is not as acute. Likewise, please consider not burning or throwing away cult objects that are irreplaceable and could be used by a future researcher or in a lawsuit. I can’t tell you how many times ex-members told me they threw away or burned pictures, recordings, or personal creative works and have come to regret the impulsiveness of their action.

That said, here are some ideas about what to do with an old cult object:

1. Unceremoniously throw it away. Remove the significance of that object by refusing to devote any more of your time or energy on it. Simply toss it.

2. Perform a ritual destruction. It can be cathartic to (safely!) burn, shred, or otherwise destroy that object. It’s a tangible way to signify that it no longer holds any control over you. Consider a symbolic destruction too as a way to feel good and keep the object.

3. Alter the object or its use. Perhaps you have some cult clothing that would make a good cleaning rag, or perhaps the fabric can be used in a sewing project. Treat the object as you would treat anything else you own.

4. Keep it. Maybe the object is still useful, and it doesn’t impede your healing process. Perhaps you have some academic interest in it, or it reminds you of a friendship or a fun trip. Again, please consider keeping objects that are truly personal or irreplaceable, even if you have to temporarily give it away.

The important thing to remember is that you are in control over your own healing. You have control over what you want to do with your own possessions, and what they mean to you. Be mindful about your decision. Don’t just keep an item out of habit, or because you have a phobia that something bad will happen to you if you get rid of it.

What have you done with your old cult objects? Comment below and let us know what has been helpful for you!

Steven Hassan

Steven Hassan, PhD, MA, MEd, LMHC, NCC has helped thousands of individuals and families recover from undue influence (mind control). With over 40 years of experience, he is sought after as one of the foremost authorities on undue influence and controlling groups and individuals. Steve understands the subject from a unique perspective as both a former cult member and as a clinical professional.

Steven is the Founding Director of the Freedom of Mind Resource Center, a coaching, consulting, and training organization dedicated to supporting individuals to have the freedom to think clearly and to freely consider how they want to live their lives.  Steven pioneered a breakthrough method called the Strategic Interactive Approach (SIA), an effective and legal alternative for families to help cult members.  The SIA teaches family and friends how to strategically influence the individual involved in the cult.

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