Errant Beliefs

Errant Belief #10: “We Have Lost Hope”

By |2018-06-21T11:48:14+00:00June 21st, 2018|Categories: Resources and Support, Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Have a Positive Self-Fulfilling Prophecy Not a Negative One   In my opinion, giving up hope is a dysfunctional coping mechanism to deal with the pain. Unfortunately, it suggests incorrectly that there is nothing constructive that can be done.  If family members and friends no longer believe that the person will reestablish contact (if they have [...]

Errant Belief #9: “She’ll Walk out on Her Own When She Is Ready”

By |2018-05-31T11:23:15+00:00May 31st, 2018|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Is She Really Free to Leave? This attitude presumes that the cult member has the freedom of mind, finances, and the resources to just "leave." The bars are invisible but very real. In my experience, depending on the length of his involvement, the "exit cost" is usually very high to walk out of a high demand group. The [...]

Errant Belief #8: “She’s Better Off Where She Is”

By |2018-05-10T11:17:04+00:00May 10th, 2018|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Are They Better Off Being Left in the Group?   Sometimes family, friends, and even mental health professionals may think that a person is better off in the cult. This way, the family, and friends may not feel obliged to do anything to help rescue the individual. Sometimes this is because the person has been a [...]

Errant Belief #7: “He Must Be Weak, Stupid or Looking for Easy Answers or Someone to Tell Him What to Do”

By |2018-04-26T12:34:36+00:00April 26th, 2018|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

"Don't Blame the Victim" This is a very commonly held, but fallacious generalization about people involved with destructive relationships and cult groups. People often try to find fault with people who experience tragedy by blaming the victim. Laying blame gives people a false sense of control over their own lives by distancing them from the victim. [...]

Errant Belief #5: “He Has the Right to Believe What He Wants to Believe”

By |2018-03-15T18:12:45+00:00March 15th, 2018|Categories: Resources and Support, Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

The Right to Believe Anything vs. Reality-Testing   Freedom to believe is only a real freedom if you also have the freedom not to believe.  Having the right to believe something carries with it a presupposition of the right to not believe it, too.  When recruiters deceptively ensnare people into a closed belief system, it violates informed [...]

Errant Belief #2 “Everything is Mind Control”

By |2018-02-01T11:11:47+00:00February 1st, 2018|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Errant Belief #2: “Everything is Mind Control” Mind control is everywhere, some people state—in psychotherapy, advertising, education, and the military, for example— so it must be acceptable. When we generalize and say that everything is mind control, all distinctions are lost. No insight is gained. A more productive model is to think in terms of [...]

Errant Belief #1: There’s No Such Thing as Mind Control

By |2018-01-26T11:11:31+00:00January 26th, 2018|Categories: Resources and Support, Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Refuting Errant Beliefs You will need to know how to address other people’s misconceptions and, eventually, you will have to articulate these issues to the cult member as well. To help prepare you, I have identified ten of the most common fallacies about mind control cults.  Today, I will discuss the first one.  Errant Belief [...]