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Errant Belief #10: “We Have Lost Hope”

By |2018-06-21T11:48:14+00:00June 21st, 2018|Categories: Resources and Support, Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Have a Positive Self-Fulfilling Prophecy Not a Negative One   In my opinion, giving up hope is a dysfunctional coping mechanism to deal with the pain. Unfortunately, it suggests incorrectly that there is nothing constructive that can be done.  If family members and friends no longer believe that the person will reestablish contact (if they have [...]

How to Rescue a Loved One from a Cult or Controlling Relationship: The Strategic Interactive Approach

By |2018-06-18T15:46:22+00:00April 11th, 2018|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

  Development of the Strategic Interactive Approach Family members and friends often feel angry, confused, hurt, frustrated and helpless when they realize a loved one has gotten involved with a controlling person or group. They often notice a radical personality change. They either try to argue the person away, are reassured or told to mind [...]

Errant Belief #5: “He Has the Right to Believe What He Wants to Believe”

By |2018-03-15T18:12:45+00:00March 15th, 2018|Categories: Resources and Support, Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

The Right to Believe Anything vs. Reality-Testing   Freedom to believe is only a real freedom if you also have the freedom not to believe.  Having the right to believe something carries with it a presupposition of the right to not believe it, too.  When recruiters deceptively ensnare people into a closed belief system, it violates informed [...]

Errant Belief #4: “He’s an Adult. We Have No Right to Interfere.”

By |2018-03-01T16:26:42+00:00March 1st, 2018|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Undue Influence Undermines Autonomy It is completely understandable that people might resist any request to help a person who has been unduly influenced. The person might say, "Why should I?  They are an adult.  I don't think it is right to interfere with their decision."  If the person isn't asking for help, why get involved?  Americans [...]