high control groups

Errant Belief #10: “We Have Lost Hope”

By |2018-06-21T11:48:14+00:00June 21st, 2018|Categories: Resources and Support, Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Have a Positive Self-Fulfilling Prophecy Not a Negative One   In my opinion, giving up hope is a dysfunctional coping mechanism to deal with the pain. Unfortunately, it suggests incorrectly that there is nothing constructive that can be done.  If family members and friends no longer believe that the person will reestablish contact (if they have [...]

Errant Belief #9: “She’ll Walk out on Her Own When She Is Ready”

By |2018-05-31T11:23:15+00:00May 31st, 2018|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Is She Really Free to Leave? This attitude presumes that the cult member has the freedom of mind, finances, and the resources to just "leave." The bars are invisible but very real. In my experience, depending on the length of his involvement, the "exit cost" is usually very high to walk out of a high demand group. The [...]