misconceptions

Errant Belief #10: “We Have Lost Hope”

By |2018-06-21T11:48:14+00:00June 21st, 2018|Categories: Resources and Support, Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Have a Positive Self-Fulfilling Prophecy Not a Negative One   In my opinion, giving up hope is a dysfunctional coping mechanism to deal with the pain. Unfortunately, it suggests incorrectly that there is nothing constructive that can be done.  If family members and friends no longer believe that the person will reestablish contact (if they have [...]

Errant Belief #6: “He’s Too Intelligent to Join a Cult”

By |2018-04-19T14:12:26+00:00April 19th, 2018|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Intelligent People Fall Prey to Cults     This was my mother’s response in 1974, when I dropped out of college, quit my job, donated my bank account, and moved into the Moon Center in Queens, New York. She was trying to reconcile how her son, an honors student, could be foolish enough to be taken [...]

Errant Belief #3: “Why Should I Do Anything? He Says He’s Happy!”

By |2018-02-22T15:14:24+00:00February 22nd, 2018|Categories: Resources and Support, Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Cult Identity Gail Maeder is on right Members of the Heaven’s Gate cult took turns making videotaped farewell statements that explained why they had decided to leave their “vehicles” behind and commit suicide.  They all said they were happy and claimed that they were exercising their own free will.  They had been told that [...]

Errant Belief #2 “Everything is Mind Control”

By |2018-02-01T11:11:47+00:00February 1st, 2018|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Errant Belief #2: “Everything is Mind Control” Mind control is everywhere, some people state—in psychotherapy, advertising, education, and the military, for example— so it must be acceptable. When we generalize and say that everything is mind control, all distinctions are lost. No insight is gained. A more productive model is to think in terms of [...]