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Freedom of Mind: Index of Blogs

By |2018-07-19T14:51:12+00:00July 19th, 2018|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

June 19, 2018 I try to blog every week with updates about my work, research, current events, high control groups, coercive control, media and other topics.  I have written pieces on U.S. politics, world news, child abuse, human trafficking, terrorism, undue influence, multi-level marketing, and healing and recovery.  Whether you are new to Freedom of Mind [...]

Errant Belief #9: “She’ll Walk out on Her Own When She Is Ready”

By |2018-05-31T11:23:15+00:00May 31st, 2018|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Is She Really Free to Leave? This attitude presumes that the cult member has the freedom of mind, finances, and the resources to just "leave." The bars are invisible but very real. In my experience, depending on the length of his involvement, the "exit cost" is usually very high to walk out of a high demand group. The [...]

High Control Groups Program Members to Fear Mental Health Help

By |2018-05-24T10:26:24+00:00May 24th, 2018|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Mental Health Awareness Month May is Mental Health Awareness Month! I wanted to write this blog on how some high control groups program their members away from mental health help.  This is true, especially in the case of Jehovah's Witnesses,  Scientology, The Moonies, as well as countless other high control Christian, Jewish and Muslim groups. A recent murder-suicide [...]

The Freedom of Mind Approach to Recovery and Healing from Destructive Cults

By |2018-05-17T10:54:18+00:00May 17th, 2018|Categories: Resources and Support, Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

  The Freedom of Mind approach to recovery and healing from destructive cults is customizable and designed to meet the needs of most any person who has been influenced by a cult. People who were born or raised in a cult have spent their early developmental years under cult control. Other people may have entered into [...]

Errant Belief #8: “She’s Better Off Where She Is”

By |2018-05-10T11:17:04+00:00May 10th, 2018|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Are They Better Off Being Left in the Group?   Sometimes family, friends, and even mental health professionals may think that a person is better off in the cult. This way, the family, and friends may not feel obliged to do anything to help rescue the individual. Sometimes this is because the person has been a [...]

Recovery from Spiritual Abuse and Healing Oneself to Trust Again

By |2017-08-11T07:28:36+00:00August 9th, 2017|Categories: News and Updates, Resources and Support, Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

This past weekend, I attended and spoke at a conference at the University of Massachusetts, Dartmouth.  This one-day event was sponsored by MeadowHaven, The Protestant Chaplaincy of the University of Massachusetts, Dartmouth, Dartmouth Bible Church, and International Cultic Studies Association. The title of my talk was "Spiritual Abuse: Strategies to Help Someone to Exit, Heal and [...]

Old Cult Objects: What to Do with Them?

By |2017-06-06T13:16:35+00:00June 1st, 2017|Categories: Resources and Support, Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Scientology E-Meter Here is an exercise for recovering ex-members: Look around your home.  How many objects remind you of your former cult?  Do you still have cult clothing, books, music, or art?  How does having these objects affect you? I recently worked with a woman who had been out of a Korean cult for 7 years.  She [...]

Effective Healing Takes Hard Work

By |2017-03-21T10:42:34+00:00February 4th, 2017|Categories: Resources and Support, Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

  I’ve written before about why ex-members need to heal themselves before helping others. Even if they’re not interested in becoming a vocal activist against destructive cults, there are plenty of good reasons to learn about undue influence and work on personal recovery.  It still amazes me to encounter incredible ex-member activists who have not [...]

For Ex-Members: Surviving the Holidays

By |2017-03-21T10:45:20+00:00December 23rd, 2016|Categories: Resources and Support, Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

  For many people, family-oriented holidays like Thanksgiving, Christmas, and Hanukkah are loving, happy times: baking, singing, playing games, decorating, sleeping in, giving gifts, and spending time with family and friends.   However, for former members of “high-demand” groups, it can be a very difficult time. Especially for those with family members still involved with the group, [...]

Hitting, Spanking, Paddling and Using Belts to Discipline Children is Harmful

By |2017-03-21T10:56:42+00:00August 27th, 2016|Categories: Resources and Support, Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

In the United States, it is illegal for a prison guard to hit a death row inmate, it is illegal for a military sergeant to hit a private and it is illegal for a man to hit his wife. But, it is legal for an adult to hit a child. In all 50 states, the use [...]