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Highlights from my EXJW Reddit AMA (Ask Me Anything)

By |2018-11-29T13:06:12+00:00November 29th, 2018|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Top Ten Questions & Answers On Monday, November 19, 2018, I participated in my first ever AMA (Ask Me Anything) for r/exjw on Reddit to an overwhelming response. Reddit users interviewed me by posting questions which I then answered on the Reddit forum. I want to thank Kimmy O'Donnell who helped arrange it and everyone for [...]

Help For Those That Leave a Cult But Still Have Beliefs That Are Harmful 

By |2018-09-13T12:22:30+00:00September 13th, 2018|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I previously wrote a blog about people who are still living inside high-control groups that no longer believe in the leader or group. They remain trapped inside due to a variety of reasons, but there are also practical reasons which include the high exit cost of losing family, money, and friends. Most people can and do leave the [...]

Children are Harmed by Destructive Cults – Part One

By |2018-11-08T14:39:23+00:00August 31st, 2018|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

    Freedom of religion does not give permission to traumatize and abuse kids! Last week, I blogged about adults in totalistic, destructive cults who are physically still in but psychologically out and sitting on the fence. This week I wanted to blog about children who are helpless and were born or raised in a group. [...]

Tired of Being “On The Fence” With Your Life?

By |2018-08-23T14:36:02+00:00August 23rd, 2018|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Beginning to Doubt and Question There are moments when almost anybody can become disillusioned when in a totalistic, or rigid and intolerant, group (or controlling relationship). Losing one’s “faith” can happen for a wide variety of reasons. Maybe they become aware of some discrepancy or hypocrisy in the doctrine or in a leader’s behavior. Perhaps someone [...]

The BITE Model and Jehovah’s Witnesses

By |2018-11-29T14:07:11+00:00August 2nd, 2018|Categories: Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

August 2, 2018: This past June, I did an online survey on influence to conduct, analyze and publish research on undue influence. Scientific data is required to help establish specific evaluation criteria to update legal and social policy in the United States and around the world. The initial results of my research show that former members of the [...]

Researchers Beware: Wikipedia Entries About High Control Groups Are Not Very Trustworthy 

By |2018-04-05T11:26:47+00:00April 4th, 2018|Categories: Resources and Support, Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Jimmy Wales, Founder of Wikipedia, 2017 Reliable Information? or  Ideologically Biased? We have been living in the Information Age, the Knowledge Age, with access virtually 24/7 to anything and everything. Many in today's world go to Wikipedia to learn about cars, animals, medicines and even cults.  And that is okay.  For the most part, Wikipedia [...]

Shunning and the BITE Model of Mind Control in the Jehovah’s Witnesses

By |2018-03-22T18:38:08+00:00March 22nd, 2018|Categories: News and Updates, Blog, Current Events|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

The Trauma of Being Cut Off: Disfellowshipped While Still Indoctrinated   Unless it has happened to you, it is impossible to describe the pain, confusion and suffering a person endures when they are excommunicated from an authoritarian Bible group like the Watchtower Society. People's entire identities are molded around ideological conformity and dependence on commands from [...]

A Watchtower Tragedy

By |2017-04-06T17:47:34+00:00October 21st, 2016|Categories: Blog, Current Events|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

  This week, a 27-year old member of the Jehovah’s Witnesses in Canada lost her life because of her refusal to accept a life-saving blood transfusion. Éloïse Dupuis was admitted to the hospital after her planned home birth resulted in complications. She was immediately given a Caesarean section and her baby was saved. However, during the [...]

Cult Survivors Need Compassion and Help to Recover

By |2017-03-21T11:11:04+00:00May 20th, 2016|Categories: Resources and Support, Blog, Current Events|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

  On Thursday, news broke that another of the missing Chibok schoolgirls kidnapped by the Islamist extremist cult Boko Haram two years ago has been found. The second in just as many days, she is being hailed officially by the authorities of Nigeria as a success story and paraded in front of the media as proof [...]

Reaching Out: Communicating After Cult Exit

By |2017-03-21T11:17:26+00:00April 22nd, 2016|Categories: Resources and Support, Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

  I am often approached by concerned family members of adult cult members who need help. I work with the family by coaching them to use my Strategic Interactive Approach. This involves teaching them how to employ an ethical influence campaign based on compassion, and designed to help the cult member question the group’s leader, doctrine, [...]