waking up

Robert Jay Lifton MD: An Interview with a Genius

By |2017-04-06T17:53:00+00:00October 7th, 2016|Categories: News and Updates, Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

  As this year marks the 40th anniversary of the day I left the Moonies, I want to take some time to acknowledge an individual who played an important role in my personal and professional development. I recently had the pleasure of interviewing the famous psychiatrist and my mentor, Robert Jay Lifton.  I was first introduced [...]

Holy Hell Documentary Shows How Cult Leader Raped Followers for Years

By |2017-04-06T17:58:32+00:00September 29th, 2016|Categories: Media Reviews, Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

  Imagine spending over twenty-two years of your life believing you are one of the select few who knows the secrets of the universe-- only to discover the world that you live in is really a brainwashing cult. This is the story behind Holy Hell. Will Allen, the filmmaker who made this documentary from 20 years [...]

Use of Words, Loaded Language, and “Thought Control” of Believers

By |2017-03-04T16:03:58+00:00July 29th, 2016|Categories: Resources and Support, Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

  I recently read former Scientologist official Mike Rinder’s blog piece on “Word Clearing.” I suspect that most people who read his blog are ex-Scientologists, but I think it might be interesting for former members of other destructive groups to give it a read. I thought it could be a useful introduction to a blog I [...]

Important New Model Offers Legal Guidelines for Cases Involving Undue Influence

By |2017-03-21T11:10:17+00:00June 3rd, 2016|Categories: Media Reviews, Blog|Tags: , , , , , , |

  Forty years ago, I was deprogrammed from the Moonies and months later I agreed to do involuntary deprogrammings with fellow cult members. During that time, parents had the legal recourse to help their adult children involved with cults. Families could go before a judge, and petition the court for a one week ex-parte "conservatorship" giving [...]

Creativity, Spontaneity, All Spring from the Authentic Self: Silk Road Project Film

By |2017-03-21T11:10:41+00:00May 27th, 2016|Categories: Media Reviews, Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , |

  By World Economic Forum from Cologny, Switzerland [CC BY-SA 2.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/2.0)], via Wikimedia Commons This week my family was invited to an advanced showing of a new documentary, The Music of Strangers: Yo-Yo Ma and the Silk Road Ensemble which will be premiering in NY, LA and other places in June. I invite [...]

My Waking Up Day- 40 Years Later- I am Filled with Gratitude!

By |2017-05-10T15:43:46+00:00May 11th, 2016|Categories: News and Updates, Blog|Tags: , , , , , , |

A recent photo of Gladys Gonzalez, myself, and Nestor Garcia M.D. May 11th 1976 was the day. After five days of deprogramming, I “woke up” and emerged from being a “model Moonie” and leader to a very upset, confused, angry, ashamed self. A team of four people hired by my parents: Nestor Garcia, Michael [...]

Reaching Out: Communicating After Cult Exit

By |2017-03-21T11:17:26+00:00April 22nd, 2016|Categories: Resources and Support, Blog|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |

  I am often approached by concerned family members of adult cult members who need help. I work with the family by coaching them to use my Strategic Interactive Approach. This involves teaching them how to employ an ethical influence campaign based on compassion, and designed to help the cult member question the group’s leader, doctrine, [...]

Heal Yourself First, Then Help Others

By |2017-03-21T11:18:45+00:00March 31st, 2016|Categories: Resources and Support, Blog|Tags: , , , , , |

  May 11, 2016 marks the 40th anniversary of my waking up from cult mind control: day five of a deprogramming initiated by my family after I nearly died in van crash. You see, at age 19, I was deceptively recruited into a front group of the Moon cult. I was transformed into a different person [...]